Posts Tagged ‘remedy’

Stop Losing Your Control

Heal Your Hidden Self

Have you ever been to the grocery store when a toddler is throwing a royal temper tantrum because their parent would not buy them candy at the checkout register? When we observe this behavior we know the child has not fully developed their self control. Don’t we all have a hidden self? It is an inner toddler that never grew up. Our hidden self in some stressful situations wants to yell, scream and lose control.

When we stop losing self control we are demonstrating maturity. We build our ability to maintain control when we face situations in our life. Facing our problems builds our mental attitude or will power. Withhold your judgments and accept the things that cannot be changed. Be tolerant of life. You can change things that you have control over. By changing your behavior you are healing your hidden self.

Do you wish life would remain constant? It sure would be boring if it did. Life is dynamic. If you cannot adjust to the ebb and flow of life you are prone to losing your control. Don’t make problems worse by being trapped in an inability to change.  You can make your life better overall. Heal your hidden self by gaining control.

Let’s face it we are all human. We all know our moods can swing from positive to negative. It is necessary to feel our emotions. At appropriate times we need to show our emotions. Then, in some situations it is necessary to step back and observe things objectively. You do not want to emotionally over react. The remedy is to handle the situation with logic. It will build your ability to stay calm during difficult problems.

Stress can make you weak. If you are overstressed it hinders your subliminal mind-to the point you are unable to look at a situation logically. Do not overburden your perspective by focusing only on the stress in your life. Take a moment to redirect your thoughts to the positives in your life. What makes you feel your life is fulfilling? Alter your mood by opening your mind and heart. Train yourself to control your emotions and the physical reactions that occur when your inner toddler takes over.

Heal your hidden self by not losing your control.

Happy Life

Do you feel alone? Feeling alone is a part of being human. It’s ok to be sad. Everyone has moments when they feel sad and alone. Events such as when someone close to us passes away, being overly criticized at work, friends letting us down or being rejected by a loved one can trigger that funk of depression.

Remember a deeper depression may require medical treatment. Without seeking medical advice depression can leave a life-long impact on your self-esteem, health and overall well being. Today, I am just going to share some tips to help you overcome that everyday ‘melancholy mood.’ I want you to have these tips so you can swing your mood from sad and alone to happy and content.

Tip #1: Do you get enough light and sunshine?

• Lack of sunshine triggers your body to produce Melatonin.
• Melatonin lowers your body temperature and can lead to that sluggish feeling.
• Your body may produce more Melatonin during winter when there are longer hours at night.
• More people feel depressed during winter than in other seasons.

Remedy: Get more light and sunshine!

• Eat your lunch outside.
• Take a 10 minute break in the afternoon and take a walk
• Make sure the lighting in your office, your den or whichever room you spend a lot of time in has adequate and bright enough light.

Tip #2: Are you sitting around and moping?

• Our spirits get down when we let our mind over focus on one negative incident.
• We are more apt to feel depressed when our body is lethargic.

Remedy: Keep your mind busy

• Choose activities that inspire you.
• It is difficult to be depressed when you are engaged in something you are passionate about.
• Remember to set a goal; focus on your accomplishments and what you can do.

Tip #3: Relax!

• Let’s face it-life gets hectic.
• Work, friends, family-issues come up and we can feel overwhelmed.
• When we let stress take over we are giving the melancholy mood a chance to take hold of us.

Remedy: Take a break

• Learn some deep breathing exercises.
• When you are in that moment and stress is at an all time high take five minutes, close your eyes and breathe deeply.
• At the end of a stressful day take a soak in a warm bath or listen to music you like that will sooth your soul.
• Take a day off-have a day to yourself where you can just have fun. Life is so short you might as well enjoy it.

Tip #4: Be Fit

• Brace yourself because I am going to say it: Diet and Exercise.
• Does a large bowl of your favorite ice cream sound like the perfect band-aid to make the hurt go away?
• How about a glass of wine? Or two?

Remedy: Maintain a healthy diet and stay fit. It’s important.

• Sugar and caffeine contribute to feeling anxious and tension.
• Alcohol is a depressant. If you are already feeling depressed alcohol aggravates the condition.
• When you exercise your body releases endorphins.
• Endorphins are your body’s natural stress-reducing “happy substance.”

Tip #5: Be Social

• Feel like putting on your most comfortable clothes, crawling in bed and forget the world?
• Have you ever heard someone say, “I just want to curl up in a ball and hide”?

Remedy: Do It

• Cultivate a circle of friends that you can rely on for moral support.
• Need words of encouragement?  Turn to your core group of friends.
• Remember give someone a hug because when you give one you get one.
• Be intimate.
• Love and care expressed by the people closest to you will help boost your immune system.

Got a melancholy mood? Want to see it swing the other way? The remedy is to apply these five tips: let the sunshine in, keep your mind busy, take a break, maintain a healthy diet-stay fit, do it.  Here’s to your happy life.

Anger Management for Teens

Anger Management for Teens

Anger management for teens is very important these days. Violence portrayed in video games, television programs and movies has escalated to an alarming rate. Our teens are exposed to more than we wish for them to be. For those ages between 12 and 20 years old it is an exciting, confusing and angry time.
Mood: What is anger? According to the dictionary it is “a strong feeling of displeasure and belligerence aroused by a wrong.” It can also refer to our emotions. If we are feeling angry, the emotion can be a mask for deeper feelings of hurt and insecurity. Often we do not take the time to identify how we are feeling. We lump it all together and say, “I am mad!” Teenagers are in the process of learning how to manage their anger.

Swings: Teenagers are caught between child and adult. Physically their bodies are transforming from their child appearance to their adult appearance. During the transition the teenager feels a wide range of emotions. Those emotions swing from one extreme to the other. They can feel overwhelmed with happiness because their friend invited them to their house to hang out. The next moment will be overwhelmed with anger because their parents said they had to be back home by 11:00pm. They may be old enough to have a job but not old enough to drive a car. They may be old enough to drive a car but not old enough to vote. They want to be treated like an adult and only have the responsibilities of a child. There is a constant push and pull within them.

Remedy: How should teens manage anger?

• Indentify what is making them angry
• Talk about different ways to look at the situation
• Explore several solutions
• Compromise: allowing the teen to contribute to the solution of a problem empowers them; they feel heard and understood when they own part of the solution
• Exercise: learn to burn off that pent up energy that anger creates
• Express: use talents such as art, music, writing to release the anger